Midlife wife crisis8

[Wolfman]

IH you are absolutely right I have to let go (drop the rope). I feel like a do for a couple of days then I backslide. I am really trying to focus on myself more. Eating right, working out, playing baseball, going out with friends and being the best dad possible. For me once I can let go of the past and not worry about the future I will be able to move forward. It’s just taking me a long time. What does everyone say here, patience. I am trying really hard.
IH I have never seen swingers. Sorry my friends busy my chops for that all the time. And I love to dance and pretty good. Why did you ask about dancing?

Joe Joe. That was some great info. You are absolutely right I am always thinking if I do something or say something how will it affect her. I can’t worry about what she thinks anymore. I have make decisions that are best for me regardless of how she is going to act. I have always tried to please my w. Now it’s my time to do what’s best for me and my children. I definitely lost respect for myself and how would I expect her to give me respect if I have none for myself. I will re-read that post many times, it is gold. I know people have been saying this for a long time for me, I just have been down on myself. That gets me nowhere. It’s funny I am only “weak” around my w. When I go out I meet women all the time, I have such a confidence when I am out. But when my w is around it’s like she is my “kryptonite”. I don’t know why I am so weak around her. I try not to show that but I feel it, which means she probably feels it.

LH you have been telling me this for a long time!! I’m sorry if I have frustrated you, I need to get better at being strong and confident around her. I need to be the same man when I am out when I am with her. Too many mistakes, I will not make these mistakes in my next relationship.