I have been away from the boards and am just catching up. I am so sorry for all that you are going through. I can relate to your feelings of loss in regards to your in-laws. When all of this began for me it was one of the first things that came to mind as they have been part of my family for almost 28 years. In my mind I was hoping for a phone call from a SIL, but it didn't happen. I'm not even sure how much they know. My H just told his parents about a week ago, but I'm sure they spread the word. My MIL reached out to me, but no mention of our situation, just an invite to visit when I am in town later this month. Two of my SILs have contacted me, but just about day to day stuff, no mention of my H or separation.
I agree with IW, maybe they just feel uncomfortable. Maybe they just don't know what to say or do. It doesn't make it hurt any less though. Who knows what our spouses tell others, if anything at all. I have yet to tell my own sisters, but my parent know so I guess I'm hoping they will spread the word as it is too painful to say out loud at this point.
I understand your frustration with the repeated surfacing of your childhood stuff, but look how far you've come in life despite it all. You are building a life of stability for your children. Look at how strong you are. That's progress!
