Thanks for your reply. It's so hard isn't it. I really want to make us work, but realise that I can't control/fix anything so am focusing on myself and the kids.I believe him to be suffering from depression and has said that his father died unhappy and he doesn't want to? But we have been so happy and now he can only see the negative.
It's been quite a shock. We have had a lot of changes in 18 months. Father-In-Law passed, both H and I got new full time jobs and so relationship has taken a hit. I had previously always worked from home so had time/energy for everyone. The relationship has been neglected in 18 months and I see that but now he isn't interested and I can't suddenly put the effort in. This seems to be the biggest issue which has led to this. Knowing how to play it is tough. I'm unsure if there is another woman but I would say my gut says so. I've put those thoughts into a box, no snooping etc because that for me is a sideline issue.
He asked me to help fill some housing forms in last night and when I declined his monster came out. In the end I gave him some info. It seems that the more I am GAL and doing 180s the more he is bringing up discussing the relationship and trying to start arguments. I find it hard to know what to say so have started saying nothing but that gets him more angry. He keeps asking lots of questions as to what I'm doing etc and I answer them warmly but not overly enthusiastic.
sending you strength and love, it's nice to know I'm not the only one going through all this.
