WAWs, and WWs in particular, like to cake eat. They like to be able to do whatever they want and still get all the benefits of having a husband. Start to break that. Start to show her what life without you will look like.
Steve, what is your advice on breaking the habit of giving your W the benefits of having a husband when it is a 180 that you need to prove that you have changed? I think a ton of us on the forum struggle with this.
This is where I like to use the analogy of a car.
When you have a car that is running properly, it is important to do routine maintenance. Keep it clean. Change the oil and filters. Rotate the tires. If you fail to do the routine maintenance, eventually you will have a breakdown. Once you have a breakdown, doing the routine maintenance become superfluous. If your engine is blown, what good will it do to change the oil?
Your MR is like that. Doing routine maintenance can help you avoid BD. After BD doing routine maintenance doesn't help anything and is in fact a waste of time. So while it seems intuitive after BD to start doing the things you should have done before (hugging, communicating better, 5 LLs, etc), it isn't going to help at that point. It is too late for those tactics.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
