Oh my gosh you've got to be kidding! Wow, the fantasy world some WAS's live in just blows my mind. A couple in my neighborhood split up, the woman was a WAS. She left, got her own place, engaged in a GGW lifestyle and got a tattoo of a dragonfly on her lower back with text in Latin that translated to "She's Finally Free!" 6 months later she was back at home like nothing ever happened.
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So I tried the, I'm sleeping in the bed, you take the couch. I just got into bed and she asked when are you going to tell me? I said now. I wad on couch last night. Not happy but stood my ground.
Good. And no, don't expect her to like it. It's all about gaining back respect which she absolutely will NOT like giving you. You're laying the groundwork for her to see you and respect you and admire you as a person at some point down the road, not right now.
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Family beach home goes in trust to kids with goal to turn into duplex, we split the halves and use until we die. Major city investment property to her and minor out of state to me. Which suits her because she can live in the city unit and use her half of beach house. Which doesn't suit me because I don't want to live near her and she winds up with more in her name! And if I ever want to repartner I don't have access to capital.
If it doesn't suit you then flat out tell her you do not find it acceptable. If she asks what you do find acceptable then tell her whatever it is- selling everything and splitting the proceeds, or her buying you out or whatever it is. Don't buy into HER fantasy break-up. Stand your ground and fight for your rights.
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I feel DB isn't working and the more I get sucked into these conversations the further reconciliation seems.
I've read so many sitches over the years, and of those that reconciled almost without exception it didn't happen until the LBS said they were convinced it was impossible and they completely let go. You know that saying "it's always darkest just before the dawn", there's a lot of truth in it when it comes to recon.
