So I tried the, I'm sleeping in the bed, you take the couch. I just got into bed and she asked when are you going to tell me? I said now. I wad on couch last night. Not happy but stood my ground. Remember I'm in vacation atm and it isn't fun. Then she talks about a deadline to do a property settlement. And wow, talk about eating cake. Family beach home goes in trust to kids with goal to turn into duplex, we split the halves and use until we die. Major city investment property to her and minor out of state to me. Which suits her because she can live in the city unit and use her half of beach house. Which doesn't suit me because I don't want to live near her and she winds up with more in her name! And if I ever want to repartner I don't have access to capital.
So this to me doesn't sound like a confused WAW. I've stalled but her rationale is she brought more to the marriage even though law doesn't see it that way. I always said I would look after family but now that my eyes are open to Mr. Nice Guy I see this as more selfishness. I do want to look after my kids but not at the expense of my future.
I feel DB isn't working and the more I get sucked into these conversations the further reconciliation seems. I feel her acceptance of my boundaries is more resignation. There is no OP AFAIK (just brief EA lasting couple weeks).
Let me rephrase, DB is working for me. I have expectation that we could be back together. And there lies my problem I guess.
