D11 and I are currently sitting in a gas station because th rain is so bad I can’t see. We are on our way from vacation. We were going to leave after breakfast today, but M convinced me to keep my dog boarded one more night so we could spend the day. My dog is having a blast at his doggie resort. He even made a girlfriend .
Overall this trip was wonderful. It was a huge bonding experience for all of us. All of us really bonded individually with one another .Really, it was like vacationing with my husband and our two kids and my mother in law. I never had a family vacation like that. The kids had an absolute ball. Aside from being stuck in thunderstorms, I am so glad we stayed because we had the best day at the beach. Building stuff in the sand, boogie boarding, all doing it all together.
I observed a lot about his parenting style this weekend. He gives his child 100% attention 100% of the time. He carried him still. When we decide what we are going to do or where we are going to go, he asks his kid. He gives him anything he wants and supposedly to “prevent a meltdown” in my opinion, sometimes kids need to hear no and melt down, instead of getting whatever they want when they want it. But it’s not how he rolls. He lets his kid pretty much eat what he wants when he wants too. Even D11 said today at breakfast when he carried his son over to the counter to chose something “M totally s@cks up to son!” It’s true . Her observation is correct.
I mean, I get why he does it. He doesn’t want any negative time with his son. And I think he avoids any sort of arguing. Like when I go to discipline my daughter when her mouth gets sassy he tells me “ shhhh, don’t aggravate her” and I’m all like “aggregate her?!!?!?, she’s aggravating me” I have no problem putting her in her place when her mouth gets disrespectful. But I guess in the time he has him, he wants it all to be rainbows and puppies. No negativity. But life happens. Sometimes the time we parent isn’t always during the best of times . Truth is, M wants and needs his full attention and everything to be great.
With all that being said, it was a fantastic trip. I didn’t say anything about the lack of affection because it did pick up. I think he was nervous or something and he’s just so focused on his kid and giving it all to him that he is t really thinking about much more. He said we made the trip amazing and he was sad to see us go . It was hard to leave.
And I will admit it, I do think he is THE ONE. I could see myself marrying him. If only he would marry again.....
