D8, S5. No I don't think they'd be upset. They can make her a card. That's it.
Interestingly, W seems to forget I have shared access to her calendar. There is a date in Oct to "Hire a lawyer, work out a creative coparenting arrangement, and make it official. A future of non-Disney enchantments awaits!" followed by a week-long trip to Bali. Then there is another entry a month later to move out and Josh moves nearby. Interesting how that would work since I've said I'm not moving out.
So my takeways are, besides Sandi's list which are gold, is think and act like an alpha-male friend. Helpful when I'm faced with a Nice Guy scenario.
Thanks guys for advice. I need work to do on dumping the H mindset and Mr Nice Guy boundaries.
