Wife's birthday in two weeks. Old Josh says get a card, write you are the most important relationship to me, and get her a gift certificate to a spa.
Not so nice Josh thinks this is pursuing and that W needs to know what it will be like "as friends". He suggests an SMS on the day or a verbal happy birthday should they see each other in the morning. Plus a card from the kids.
Seriously though, what's appropriate? Over the years I gave nice thoughtful gifts and hers were not thoughtful and even IOUs that never materialised.
Thinking out loud, maybe I could just ask what she wants to do and take it from there...
