Persistent Endurance (Part 4)

[curtis7]

I cannot get my head around why any mother would send that type of message..

But at the same time, is it futher cake eating from the WW.? .. ie get you to take the custody while she has her fun.

I am really struggling with why she would send this message as well. Of course, we know logic isn’t at the forefront of the WW mind. I’m not sure she really ever wanted kids, but she knew I wanted them, so we did. She was an excellent mother and tried to put the kids first for a long time.

The optimistic side of me wants to believe that she is really battling some inner demons and wants some time and isolation to figure it out. However, the pessimistic side of me thinks that this is to free up more time for OM by removing additional interference. Either way, I would prefer more than 50/50 with the kids regardless of her motives.

Curtis, are you OK with full custody?

I am. I love my kids and want them in my life everyday. I’m not out looking for someone else. If that day comes in the future, then my kids are still a priority. I don’t know that I can ever allow another woman to have the power over me that my W had after all that I’ve experienced since BD. The well being of my kids takes precedence.

curtis, jump at this. It is in the kid's best interest to have a stable environment. Sounds like she is unwilling or unable to provide that. So take full custody (document this!) and put your kids first.

Thanks Steve, I agree on stability for the kids. Going to reply now.