Do not help him with any forms..Let him do all the heavy lifting on his own if he wants to talk..just listen nod and validate his point of view share your feelings with a therapist friend or here interesting that he gets upset if your happy- He may want you to stay put as a back up plan
about the jeans: I would not say anything and forgive yourself- This is an extremely tough situation and all of us have reacted at some point
One time MY XH affair partners sun glasses were in his truck and the door was open You can guess where the glasses went-
now for the solution-
focus on you and the kids If he is in MLC this will take a long time you have to work on healing you and raise your kids find new hobbies, new friends, exercise, yoga, mediation,get rest, cry when you need to not around him, journel, read,take up dancing whatever you can do Its hard with 3 kids but I used to do Yoga at the house and mediation, playing an instrument ect... its also good for the kids to see your life is full of interesting hobbies and friends-church temple or whatever spiritual you believe in
the MLCer usually becomes more irresponsible and is not a good parent as tome goes on- watch the finances --they can also spend a lot they revert to a carefree stage of life that was not completed or unresolved in some way-
you may notice, new clothes, new hobbies, cars, toys, new friends, tattoos, hair changes, losing weight In MLC, there is nothing we can do to change them or fix them It is about fixing ourselves and letting them go
sorry-I know that is not what you want to hear
we are here for you and have all traveled the bumpy path but I can promise you if you stick with your greoth and ealing you will find yourself in a better place and happy again in time
peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
