I'm sure she sees that you are a great father to the kids. Unfortunately that doesn't equate to her being attracted to you. It was the same for my XW, she raved about what a great dad I was even after S and D. Unlike a lot of WAS's, she never did lose respect for me. Anyone that asked she always told that she respected me very much, I even heard her say it when she didn't know I was listening. She respected me, she loved me, she thought I was a great parent, she enjoyed the sex. But she didn't want to be married. It is damned tough to wrap your head around that. Yet that was my situation, and it is yours. There is no figuring it out.
AS, do you mean she didn't want to be married to you or just married in general? Did she ever remarry? Did she get into other relationships?
I ask these questions because my wife has hinted that she just doesn't like the institution of marriage. I think she resents the expectations and responsibilities that come with it. I personally feel that once you have married and had three kids its too late to go back and incredibly selfish, but I think that is what she is struggling with.
