I’m sorry you’re in a situation that has led you here, but in my opinion, this is the place to be when you are in this situation, if that makes sense. This forum has been a lifeline to me and kept me sane in these past months. There are so many experienced and wise people here who are always ready to help and guide you.
Don’t be too upset about setbacks, we all make mistakes, don’t dwell on them. Just try to keep on working on yourself. What I’ve understood is that the partners might get angry at first when you start GAL and changing. Especially if they see you acting happy and normal. I think it’s because they’re so unhappy and can’t understand why you are so happy in this situation.
If he wants to talk about the future, you should listen to him, let him do the talking. Don’t argue, cry or get upset. Don’t encourage him either. Validate his feelings, but mostly let him talk. I wouldn’t help him with any of the forms or legalities. What I’ve been told is to let him do all the heavy lifting.
I don’t know what to say about the jeans, I personally wouldn’t go and own up to it unless he asks about them but if he does ask, tell him the truth and apologize.
Read thru the links Cadet gave you and work on yourself. You are the only person you can work on.
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