I am new here and would like to say that the advice I have read here is really positive and motivating me to keep going.
My partner of 14 yrs (we have 3 kids) has said that we are over. He said this 4 weeks ago but is continuing to stay at home, yet searching for houses. No real reason given, just says we have run our course - although we were due to marry this year and even in April he couldn't wait to marry. I have wondered if there is an affair but he suffers from PTSD also.
Initially I did all the wrong things, crying, texts, emails, shouting, accusing him of infidelity, making it all about me etc etc and I have pushed him further and further away from me. I have also done things I am not proud of, such as cutting a tear in his new jeans out of frustration. (No excuse)
I have started the process of LRT last week and started to feel more positive but every time he wants to talk about moving out, custody of the kids, and even asked me to help fill in a form for housing I become unstuck. I don't know what to say and I do these irrational things out of frustration so then feel like I'm back at square one. Also, he seems to have noticed that I have been carrying on as normal and happy, taking new hobbies but said it is p***ing him off!? I think because I haven't been sat around crying.
Any advice with what I should say in conversations regarding the future and our relationship would be greatly appreciated. Also, I cut the jeans last night after finding he had hidden them. He has taken them for a night out and I feel like the worst person alive. (I know I need to work on my own issues here). Should I own up?
