Fine tuning my inner Me

[Grace21]

I read through the lighthouse and Sandi's rules.

I can't find these. Could you please give me the links? Thanks.

The more she puts pressure on him, the faster he will want to get away from her. Let her put the pressure on. You can take it completely off.

I often wondered if this was really true, or are they developing a deeper connection (no matter how screwed up and damaged) as they go along. I sometimes feel like a fool, a bit embarrassed by the whole thing. Like I'm waiting around saying "pick" me" "pick me". I said to a friend just a few days ago that when her house sells, this will be the big push for her to have H commit, and more answers may come. It's been on the market for 1 1/2 years! She is still married too. Her H is seeing someone too. It blows my mind so many people can just do this with seemingly no problem.

Makes me wonder who (if anyone) will file for D first.

I won't be me, I don't think.

You think that if you say the right thing, you will get clarity. H has nothing to give you right now.

I think you hit the nail on the head. I'm almost desperate for clarity. Understanding the why. Getting a glimpse of my future. Wanting H to choose a path (to me?). I need to come to terms with the fact I may not ever get any of these things.


Hope - You've given me more to think about, and helped me narrow down the areas I need to work on.

Thanks.

Grace