Steve is right, you don't need her signature to file. If you're serious about this then file and have her served. She will have a certain amount of time after being served to either sign or submit a rebuttal. No sneaking the papers back into your drawer.
Originally Posted by BenB
Nothing happened but it is a combination of both. Throughout this process it´s been bothering me tremendously that I´m living with a room mate, hoping that one day she will decide if she wants me or not. Yes, I get the whole GAL thing and I´ve worked out like a pro athelete for 6 months now twice a day, I´ve met friends, family and secured business deals and I´ve reached a point in my career I didn´t think would happen until I´m in my 50´s. There are articles about me in newspapers, I´ve been invited as guest on podcasts, people congratulating me for my success. They often end the message with something like "I hope you and your beautiful wife are well".
I get that. Just about anyone who goes through this will get fed up with it eventually. 5 months is maybe a little on the early side but if you're at peace with it and not flip-flopping back and forth daily then maybe it's time.
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I should be so happy about that, not thinking about how warm the embrace of death would be.
I can relate to that thought too. Hang in there, you will get past this and learn to enjoy life again.
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But she has been lying to me. I know that for a fact now. I´m lucky in that there is no OM, I know this for a fact as well now. I feel so bad for so many people here finding out about their spouses betrayal, I can imagine how much that must hurt and I wish no one would have to experience that. So my sitch should be a walk in the park compared to theirs but it isn´t. The pain is so intense now.
Lying is betrayal. You're going through all the same feelings as someone who has been cheated on.
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Yes, I am absolutely sure this is what I want. I am ready to move on with this new chapter in my life. But the thought of even touching another woman still sickens me.
Yup, again I can so relate to what you are going through, I did too. I experienced ED for the first time in my life when I started seeing other women. It felt like I was doing something terribly wrong. I was with my XW for 25 years, it was very difficult transitioning from being a "married dad". But I kept at it and after while started really enjoying it. Just be patient with yourself. You don't have to rush into anything.
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Can someone explain what that means? Of all the pictures she could send, she sends pictures of caviar?
It means you stole her Plan B and now she's scrambling to get it back. My opinion? Ignore every single thing she sends you. You've laid down a boundary stating you are done and want her out, stick to it. Let her feel the loss for a while and see what she does.
