LB: it seems like my H's walking away was mostly triggered by thoughts of his impending early retirement in a couple of years time, it's almost like things were looking TOO good and the future was going to be full of (good) change so they blew everything up to sabotage things looking positive. Does that make sense? Sometimes it seems to be a pattern is what I'm thinking. Like you save and plan and look forward to a bright future and then when it's about to happen someone panics and destroys it all. I might be rambling here. Love the idea of your regular Monday shuffleboard and I think you're right about the guilt, your W has a LOT to feel guilty about to be fair
Yeah I don't know, certainly a plausible scenario dilly. She did tell me that my plan for our future was me working in the garage with her standing there handing me tools. I'm not sure how she concocted this idea because she rarely helps me do any of the work on the vehicles or anything. Once in a while I asked her to help for 5 minutes with something but she clearly felt that what I was asking for demanded all of her time doing something she didn't want to do.
She is trying to start a business now, and took out $58K from our accounts a couple days before filing for divorce and transferred it to her business. She is on a 10 day trip to some country in Africa now. She has a big need to have people tell her how important she is and needs to be in control to appear to everyone as having her whole act together. The few people who know differently she doesn't interact with to avoid reality.
Me40; W38; S12; D9 BD11/19/2018 D filed 12/20/18 D Final 7/2020 Being the best example I know how for my kids to see.
