For creating a non-court-ordered voluntary schedule I would ensure you speak with the kids. They need a say in their new lives, even if things cannot work out how they want, they need to feel heard.
I know you don’t want any of this. And yes, H will have time for kids while OW is away. OW is a person of significance in his life right now; all parties need to find a resolution that works (courts would impose who knows what).
I have alter your well worded email a little, H doesn’t need reasons just facts. Reason and justifications are just something he can, and will, twist around, stick to the facts and boundaries.
Also be careful of what you put in writing, negotiate face to face, never know what will be pulled up later, best to limit any future ammo. That part about protect you and the kids - remember who you are dealing with and what he has done. Do not agree to anything without considering it for a good while, maybe even get legal counsel.
- - - - Hi H,
I’m glad we can try to come up with a visitation schedule.
My personal schedule is quite flexible except on Friday afternoons, so just let me know when you have time and we can sit down and look at this.
Nyla - - - -
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
