Side story, got to talking with a teammate I didn’t know very well. Turns out he had a WW who had an affair. Although his time line was far shorter than mine, damn it sounded so similar.
My question is this, I am at a point where I want to tell my W/ExW: do not contact me unless there is an emergency with S. Although I didn’t find evidence of EA, there were many red flags. Changing phone password, taking phone to restroom, grooming down south daily all of a sudden.
Is this an acceptable thing to do? Although I don’t have proof, it is likely, and I will have no respect for her if so. Is saying something like this counterintuitive to DB?
Thanks
Edit: I have come up with a list of what it would take for me to take her back, obviously I’m far from that but made a list anyway:
1. MC 2. MIL cannot live with us again 3. Full transparency 4. IC for her or an equivalent that helps deal with immense baggage: self harm, anxiety, codependency, controlling behavior, depression, father not present, Mother alcoholic enabler.
