What do I do? Part 2

[HB_Wife]

OW and her family are coming to vacation in our town,

What date will she arrive?

This is where I need help with a script that will help me protect myself and make me not seem like a B**t**.x

Write is out and post it here. We can help edit.

I huge part of me wants to warn her husband of what's going on, but I don't know if that's what I should

Do your research in this area before making a decision.

I do not know how many of the quote threads you have read, but you will be more informed if you read all of them:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2846984

They arrive at the end of July through first week in August.

I will try to write what I want to say once I figure it out.

I'll continue to read the quotes. Not sure how far I got last time.

HB,

Ok so correct me if I’m wrong because I haven’t read your entire sitch, your H is having an affair? You’re not ok living in an open marriage so you are looking to set a boundary? When setting a boundary you are protecting yourself and if broken there must be consequences. Legally you can not tell him to leave the home. If he says no I’m not leaving then what’s the plan? Unless you’re ready to D him if the affair continues I’m not really sure what you can do.

He is having an EA with another married woman who lives out of state. They chat/text/call/video chat daily. They do this while each other is at work or when the spouses are not home. I don't think her husband has questioned her friendship with my husband.

I guess I do need more research about boundaries. I thought I had some, but yeah, they aren't doing anything for me. Of course this is H mess to deal with and clean up once the affair gets discovered by her H or any friends/family.