I guess I don't want "more of the same of what I've been getting" even though I have enjoyed all of the time I spend with H, its not fair for him to get that part from me and not give me things that I want or need.
I would like to reconcile because I feel that unless there are extenuating circumstances such as abuse or drastic compatibility issues that cannot be resolved, all efforts should be made to work things out. That being said, I'm also not sure I am in this for years and years like some folks on the forum. It has already been two years and I feel that H doesn't know anything more than when he started all this so it is easy to be discouraged that this is not always the man he will be moving forward.