WH and/or MLC? New to forum

[97Hope]

ALWAYS respond to questions about kids. Keep it short and polite. Yes, reapply each year.

If it's a statement, I don't reply. Questions I answer. Like I would my accountant. (AlisonUK taught me that trick).

It's hard because so many people tell me to move on and find someone who treats me better like people are replaceable. They say what if you miss out on someone who could be the love of your life because you are waiting for something that never comes to fruition.

What do YOU want?

I don't buy that you would miss out on the love of your life. One could also use that as an excuse to date while married, because you might miss out on the love of your life. See what I mean? (I've actually spoken to a friend whose spouse found his "soul mate" WHILE married to my friend. True story!) {facepalm} That R didn't go anywhere - for obvious reasons to everyone save him.

You must make your decisions based on what's best for you. EVERYONE will have advice and opinions. The problem is they carry their own baggage to those opinions, they give advice that they think will just get you out of the pain for now, but you have to live with the long-term ramifications. You can listen to advice but be careful that they are in your best long-term interest.

The best advice I can give (hey, like I said everyone has advice) is be sure you do NOT make decisions based on emotions. That's what got our spouses into trouble.