You are absolutely right. I went through it with ex NG. His daughter was heartbroken when we broke up. She would tell her mom she wanted to walk to NJ to see me. She cried a lot. There has to be a sense of future and solidity.
This morning when we were leaving for the beach he said “we have to wait for bonus mom! “ then when we were walking, M went to take his hand, he said no. Then his grandma went to hold his hand and he said “no, ginger !”
M and I got a chance to hang out last night outside and have some beers while the kids were sleeping. We even got to fool around a bit. I told him what his son said and he thought it was really sweet. He said he explained the concept to him and used the term.
On the other side. He just really doesn’t display much affection towards me this week. I random quick kiss maybe once in the day and that’s about it. However, he hovers over his kid , constantly cuddling him, and always hyper focused on him, and it’s not even like he’s looking for that. Its overkill. But I understand why he is the way he is and all parent child relationships are different. D11 and I can bicker like sisters.
I would never give up this relationship for the slow down in sex and affection. I guess I’m wondering if I should say something. I don’t want to come across as needy, but I want to want my needs known, if that make sense .
