Hey Steve, hope all is well up in NYC. Have you put away your sweaters yet? Haha just kidding.
I'm unsure how to respond to helping her, but if NC is what you want to do then it doesn't fit the bill. I'd bet the old Steve, before you got married, wouldn't be helping girls who weren't interested in him with passion projects. I'm thinking this is indirect pursuit, what do you think?
As for the attraction thing, your mind is tricking you. It wants what it can't have. The law of diminishing returns applies in your love life. I think you know how to make this work in your favor.
Good points on all, thank you. My thinking was that a big piece of her feedback that she didn't feel like she could depend on me, and that I didn't do my fair share on things that should have been both of us working on it together (budgeting, etc.), this would be an opportunity to show a 180. But I can definitely agree that I wouldn't have done this for a random woman; I only did this because I still view her as my wife and I had an agenda in mind.
