One interesting thing though: she's heavily involved in local politics - a massive turning point in our M, as it caused her to have a lot less time to spend at home and between us - and she's signed up to be the campaign manager for a friend of hers that is running for a state seat. Anyway, she's not the technical type and I am, and she's having lots of trouble getting her campaign website up and running. On one hand, I absolutely don't want to be the dude who is at her beck and call when she needs help. On the other hand, one of her complaints from the M is that I wasn't very helpful to her on group projects, and that she didn't feel like I was available when she needed me.
So my question: is it possible to thread the needle here, show a 180 and help when I can (ie: not cancel plans or go out of my way), but also set boundaries (ie: come to my neighborhood, I have to leave at time x, etc.)? She's attracted to the skilled and nerdy types, of which I absolutely am, and this might be a nice way to remind her that we do work well as a team. Or am I being naive and losing respect in her eyes?
So you are going to go no contact, but keep every other week MC......oh and you still have to work on a SA. What is the point of MC at this point?
And no, do not do her website for her. If she asks, tell her that you can be hired to do it like any other contractor. Isn't she firing you as her husband? Stop acting like you are still her H.
Welp, nix that, you already are helping. -smh-
Well, I appreciate the 2x4 here and I'm sure it's a somewhat meaningless distinction, but I'm certainly not *doing* it for her. She's done 95% of it, and I'm helping her with a few bugs that come up. Never breaking my own plans to be available, but I get your point.
