"Hello. I can't say I'm too happy to be here, but I am. Here is my story...
We have been married about 20 years, have 4 children. Around the holidays I noticed my husband acting angry towards me whenever I said anything he didn't like. At that time he was talking more and more to another married woman that he met on an online game. Little clues and my gut were telling me that they were not just friends. D-Day was in January 2019 when I happened to find out that he had told the OW that he loved her. I asked my husband if it was true, but he said no. I knew that was a lie! Later that evening I asked more questions and he confessed to saying that he loved her and he was sorry. I think I forgave him too soon. I asked more questions and he answered honestly. A few days later I asked some more questions and got more honest answers.
Fast forward to this week (March 2019) I know the EA is still ongoing. I told H that I am aware of then ongoing affair. He said nothing, other than they talk about everyday things and life. He did say that they still say I love you to each other. So basically, nothing has changed, except he is more secretive with what he does.
I have been spewed the common ILYBNILWY crap and other stuff that justifies his affair."
I have since then set up boundaries: 1. I will not share my H with another woman 2. I will not be in open relationship 3. I will not accept H texting/chatting with the OW while in my/the kids presence
Unfortunately this has not stopped the EA. He is more secretive and is at home less. Runs many errands which I believe gives him access to call her.
We just returned from our family vacation. The kids and I had a blast, he not so much. H spent most of the day back in the hotel room alone or out running errands. Oh well.
At one point I did get upset/sad knowing that he would rather share the vacation with her instead of his family. He took plenty of smiling selfies to send the OW.
