WH and/or MLC? New to forum

[97Hope]

I'm so sorry you are here. AnotherStander has given great advice. I'd suggest you take it. Also read his and other stories here. You are not alone.

It is hard, but you can do it. You've already experienced one of the biggest BD's there are! And several times. You are still standing and still looking for answers because you want to do the right thing.

Cadet posted "Your H has given you a gift. The gift of TIME. Use it wisely." That statement has helped me so much. What I've read from your sitch is mostly about you waiting to see what your H wants. What about what luckeee wants?? Take some time and see if you can't figure that out. Not everything at once, but the desire of your heart no matter what H does/doesn't do.

It's easy to feel like you are trapped or must depend on your H to make your next move, but the longer you DB, detach, GAL etc the more confident you will feel. The vets here will show up and help, listen to them. They are also honest about what doesn't work and AS also mentioned giving your H space seems counterintuitive, but it is your best option right now. Let him go on his journey. You go on yours. Please take care of yourself. Big hugs.