Am I being mean by not sending him an email update on D3? He never asked for updates, or asks about her.
Read this as many times as it takes for you to stop judging yourself so harshly. It doesn't matter what anyone tells you, it matters what YOU tell you. Tell yourself that you are honoring his wishes. You don't have to like it, I don't know anyone in their right mind that would like a parent not wanting to hear from/about their children. It hurts. Like AS wrote, let yourself feel whatever you feel, but don't stay there.
I also agree that even thought this time away feels hard, it can be a great opportunity for you to focus on you and your D3. No pressure to fake it in front of H, no pressure to please/displease, worry about how your actions are affecting him.
Think about what you want to accomplish during this time apart. Take care of yourself. You can do this. ((hugs))
ME47 XH44, S28 S24 S19
8/17-BD IHS: 1/17-2/19 D FILED (ME): 7/19 D FINAL: 10/20 M23 T25 OW CONFIRMED: 01/21
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.