So true. I would never wish death on my XW but I've mentioned here before that I can't help but think that death is easier to get over than BD. Your loved one isn't coming back from death, no waiting to see what will happen. It's final. You accept it, you suffer and grieve and learn to deal with it and move on. We go through almost exactly the same process after BD but it's so much harder to let go and move on because we don't know if things are truly over or not.
I totally think that death would be easier than BD. BD involves missing someone AND knowing that they willingly abandoned you. They chose not to love you any more. While you could see them again, they don't want to see you again. They don't want to love you again.
