IH I hear how much you are struggling. I have had many days like that too. You need to get on antidepressants. They have really helped me out. They don’t work right away, it takes about a week or 2 but once they kick in you will feel different. Like Steve said, those emotions can become actions and we don’t want that.
^^^This^^^ About 2 months after my XW moved out I suddenly went into deep, dark depression. The timing made no sense, there was no trigger, it just happened. I went to the doc and he put me on Viibryd. Like Wolf said it takes a week or two for them to reach full efficacy. But once they did I felt so much better. Within a month I felt like my old pre-BD self for the first time. I was on them 3 or 4 months and then weaned off with the help of my doc (reduced 20% a week). It doesn't cost much and it doesn't have to be forever. Situational depression like we go through is often due to a chemical shift in your body, and A/D's (especially SSRI's) can correct the imbalance.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
I want you to think about something. If someone asked you 5 years ago where would you be today, would you think it would be this? Probably not!! I know this is hard because I feel your exact pain of hopelessness and feeling alone. But who’s to say 5 years from now you will be in the most amazing relationship with another woman. And you are looking back saying, “man I can’t believe I was so upset over my ex when I have this new amazing woman!!”
That's pretty much my situation. It's been years, I have a beautiful girlfriend now and life is great. I will say I don't think back and wonder why I was upset about losing my XW though. I loved her very much. I loved our life together, I loved raising our kids together, planning for the future together. To have all of that ripped away was extremely traumatic. I'm not sure we ever completely get over it just like we never get over the death of a loved one. But we learn to live with it and move on. We learn to enjoy life again, and to be happy again.
