Midlife wife crisis8

[Wolfman]

Tosmile that was an amazing post. No joke I read it about 5 times. You are so right in every way. I am trying hard to only focus on myself. Trust me I have come a long way but still have work to do. I have been really trying to focus on myself and the kids more and more. When I am with my kids we have fun and I do t let them see that anything this bothering me. When I am around my w I am happy and fun. I just have my moments when I am not with my family it hurts. I am learning to accept it more and more. Like right now we are in away, my son competes in hip hop. So we are away for the week for his dance competition. We drove down in separate cars and have different rooms. At first I was upset about this (really upset about being able to save money) but now that I am here I actually enjoy my alone time. If this would have been a few months ago I would have been a mess. I guess some people progress or “accept” there situations faster than others. I am moving at a snails pace. Tosmile, stay with me because you said our situations are almost alike. I would love to know more about your situation.
Something else you pointed out was the memories. It’s so funny how my w and I perspective is so different. I look at all the positive memories and she is stuck on the negative. You are right about me not being able to change her, I am not trying to. But I am becoming the best me possible.

Question for everyone. While we are away for the week how do I handle down time? I want to be with my kids but I don’t want her to think I want to be with her. 2 if I keep too much distance then I feel like she will day I don’t want to be with my kids. With her she always twists things and finds the negative. Thanks!!