Making the best of the mess.

[97Hope]

Your move might provide you with some clarity. The friendly contact you've been having might continue, and you'll know it is because he wants to see you and not because he needs to do some work in the house. You might not want to see him, of course (and I wouldn't blame you) but it could give you that extra physical separation that would be healthy and help you see where the land lies.

While I was thinking about this I realized that I don't care what he wants right now. I don't even want to tell him that it's me wanting the extra physical separation now. I just want to do it. I'm still trying to find the balance between cake-eating and being a lighthouse. (so so difficult for me!!).

Decided to just not be available to him. Easier than moving out and I don't want to do that any way.

Spoke with S22 & DIL's and let them know that when they get here, we will not have "family fun" time with H. They completely understood and said of course not! They will work out time with their dad apart from me. I'm so proud of them!!

H will for sure react to that, but I can't help him. Actions have consequences.

Maybe it was one of Blu's 2x4's : )