Can I Save My Marriage Alone?

[97Hope]

Hi CanBird. If you are worried about stolen account, check your amazon account and see what card was used. If you ask him it will appear that you are looking for a reason to contact him.

Since he asked you not to contact him, don't. If you want to make videos of D3, do it and save them for him when he returns. You could also do a "journal" type thing with reports of what D3 is up to, and again, save them for his return or if/when he asks for them. Don't ask him if he wants anything. He's already communicated what he wants.

I would do my very best to honor his request and turn off the Amazon notifications so you don't get triggered.

I have a different vantage point from your situation, it looks like you are spending too much time in what he buys, why he buys it and what he plans to do with it. You must get out ahead of that or you will 1. drive yourself looney 2. make decisions to affect your R with your spouse (such that it is).

Any attempts to contact him at this point violate his request. If your amazon account was hacked, you can report it later, but you could always check out where it was delivered - IF you really truly believe it is in error. It sounds more like you know he's buying things for himself and don't know why and it is scary to you. That is understandable, but the sooner you get accustomed to his abnormal behavior - and detach - the easier your life will get. This can be practice for you dealing with your own emotional responses to things.

Figure out what really bothers you about these purchases, and then put them to rest. Leave him out of that. This is for your growth.

Stay strong.