It's funny that she thought you would know her dressing up for your b-day was for you. But it's still a good sign that she is trying to look attractive to you.
You sound like you have not forgiven her and that you are holding back to punish her.
I am not judging you for that, just offering a view of what it looks like from this vantage point.
Maybe re-read Gordie's thread for a little while to get into the groove of forgiving and also being patient to wait and see what happens. I don't think it would work on any man or any woman to place too many conditions on things, let alone a skittish MLCer.
I don't judge you at all, I am struggling a lot with my stand. But just trying to give a perspective in case helpful.
And try to remember that many of us out here read what your W is doing lately and are JEALOUS. Obviously she has a long way to go, but it's a blessing to see her soften a little. Try to enjoy the blessing -- not having expectations is not the same as locking up. Watch and wait, but smile at her sometimes to encourage her awkward little baby steps. She is learning how to ride a bike and can't do it if you don't sometimes help her balance.
I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord with courage. Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
