Can you give me some examples of this? What does this look like? What do you mean by her escapades? What do you mean by rescuing her from her consequences?
I agree with you on this and I want to make sure I understand and am doing exactly what needs to be done.
I do feel like I am riding her emotional rollercoaster with her and I don’t like it. Some days she is very nice with me over the phone and some days she’s not. When she’s around her parents, she is a freaking turd. When we are in MC, she turns into a tough guy.
She calls my family and tells them she doesn’t think I’m taking her seriously when she says we are getting divorced, yet I feel I am taking her seriously but still hoping for the best. She will also call them to wish them a happy birthday, too.
But, why does she call my family if she wants to end it with me? I know I need to not care, but it’s just frustrating to me!
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Any ideas on how to make my wife miss me?
Originally Posted by sandi2
Yes, I'd start by letting go of the emotional rope. Take your focus off her and the MR. Move forward with your life. When you earnestly let go, she will know it.......and if there's a chance she could ever miss you, that's it. Why? B/c she can sense when she's lost her hold on you. When none of her little escapades work anymore, and when you stop rescuing her from consequences and just let her deal with the reality she's caused.
