I would like to think that I know who I am. I used to always be the most positive person anyone knew. I think that all changed when her parents decided to move in and take over our lives. Instead of our home being a family of 3, it turned into a family of 5. I have been told this is one of the worst cases of parental involvement people have seen.
During our situation, I decided that I didn’t like the Negative Nellie I had become. I went to therapy and have gone almost every week since. In addition, I’ve tried to do a lot of research, as well as work on myself to find me again. I also wanted to do whatever I could to take my mind off things.
I am the person she wants. I just lost myself in the negativity. It was my positivity that won her over to me, as well as being her listening ear. I want to show her that I am me again, but she just won’t have any of it. We know each other better than anyone and that’s not a good thing right now. She knows what buttons to push to get a reaction out of me and I almost fall for it every time, though I feel like I am getting better. I think it just takes time.
I don’t think she knows who she is anymore with all of this, though. Unfortunately, right now I don’t think she cares if she’s herself or someone she thinks I want.
We have always held hands throughout whatever life has given us and she just won’t let me anymore. I feel that I have all the answers to fix this situation or at least really move it forward in a positive direction as a family, if she would just trust me and give me that chance.
Originally Posted by sandi2
I want to ask you a question. Do you know who the real HrtHsbnd is? Are you being your true self, or are you trying to be someone you think she wants?
