We had a conversation this week, or rather W initiated a conversation in which in essence she is ready or moreso waiting for me to have improved communication. Recently I'll admit that I have been lacking in the communication side of things. And she has now on several occassions initiated similar chats. Sometimes just a little H bashing but seems more and more genuinely interested in us talking. She wants better communication so things can improve. Although I asked her clearly what she wanted it still wasn't clear.
About six months ago I let her know it didn't interest me to be with someone not interested in being with me. I have said similar a few times. This week she got frustrated with my comeback stating that she NEVER said she wasn't interested in me or communicating with me. I said it came acroos to me that way. I didn't force the issue by quoting what she said at the beginning of this crisis which in essence did say that.
She added that for my birthday she bought new clothes, waxed, new hairstyle FOR ME and I never thanked her for the effort. I said I had noticed but didn't know that it was for me.
Other small points arose, but I feel a change.
Anyway I am thinking this through and believe she is now at a much better place to hear some feedback from me. I know to thread lightly but still this is new groound for me. Five years ago when this crisis brike, I put in the work and was willing, ready and able to talk about anything with her. Since that has diminished. Maybe it is time to revise that.
I have no huge expectations about where this will lead, but I am curious to see.
Any tips/advice or observation are always welcome.
Hope that makes sence, it is a rushed note just to record some points for me.
Best wishes
Thanks to the posters who read along and posted since my last post. appreciate you guys
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
