I agree with peacetoday. Until H comes to you with a solid plan and resolve to make M work, drop the rope and work on letting go. I wouldn’t worry too much about the statistics of reconciliation - healing yourself is needed no matter which way this situation goes. And his path is out of your hands.
That is the real point isn’t it. His choices. You cannot reach, influence, or talk any sense into him. He will question, justify, go back to being sure, and cycle back to unsure, and so on... Leave him to it.
Focus on you, your path, and your choices.
The backslides are painful and needed. No worries. You are doing fine.
Originally Posted by Nyla79
Now that I’m back in our home, my husband is taking up all the space in my brain.
Homes do have a lot of memories contained within. Of course it does stir things up a bit.
How about: Our house. My home.
There is a distinction in that. It’s accurate. It helps.
Your home, your good memories - embrace them. And make more. (((Nyla)))
Keep working through the anger. Acknowledge it, accept it, don’t feed it. It comes and goes.
How to get through the anger, how to get to those more permanent feelings?
What are you headings? Your goals? We’ve talked about them before, just reminding. You can state again if you wish; I liked to read them.
All these small steps are leading to those goals, to that destination. Have faith, all you are going through has a purpose. Keep that in your mind and heart, this does get better.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
You can state again if you wish; I liked to read them.