I don't think it's a reaction to him but a positive action to move forward with your life.
I too have to leave the marital home because of his actions. And I felt like a victim. So, for me, knowledge was power and resulted in a shift of mindset.
I saw an IFA. I could afford to live in this house at a pinch. A harsh pinch. And have no money for the GAL activities and have a worry about what was going to need fixing next. Or I could sell, rent for a short period. Get his sorry backside into court and when I know the final settlement figure, then go and buy the house that I want (with a mortgage) So, I chose option 2.
He pays nothing to the house, his child etc but I can manage in the short term. But I feel so free. I made a choice. I no longer feel like his victim. I can move forward.
This financial / house stuff was my final fear preventing me from truly moving forward.
Flip the dynamic. Don't be a victim to this man's actions. If moving means you can have that extra security and comfort and live your life, then it is the right choice for you. Your S wants to see his Mum happy. He only needs a floor to throw his clothes on!!...and his loving mum.
