Sounds like you've been doing a lot of soul searching, and I can't argue with your conclusions. The fact that he'd speak to his 17 year old son about his plans - plans that concern you, and emotionally affect his son - without putting you in the picture first speaks volumes. It's avoidant and childish and selfish and again provides evidence that he's not operating on a level that makes him remotely worthy of you. I'm not surprised your son is angry.
On the other hand, it does sound like the house you live in needs a lot of work that means it's only suitable for a couple.
Originally Posted by 97Hope
As long as I live here, he will continue to come by (because I can't do this on my own) and have a reason to see me. I need to step away now.
Your move might provide you with some clarity. The friendly contact you've been having might continue, and you'll know it is because he wants to see you and not because he needs to do some work in the house. You might not want to see him, of course (and I wouldn't blame you) but it could give you that extra physical separation that would be healthy and help you see where the land lies.
