I haven’t said i love you today or yesterday and things seem to be better already, she seems more cheerful around me again. I cooked her breakfast this morning before she got up for work, she said thank you for the food and stuff. Today she asked if i was going to this 4th of july event with her and her family. Is all this a good sign?
Hey JB. Its going to take a very long time for you to see changes. Its not something thats going to happen overnight. This is a marathon and not a race. Some peoples situations take years to play out. My situation for example, BD in August 2018, confirmation of EXWW PA October 31, 2018, IHS from September 24, 2018, to June 1, 2019, when I moved out.
Divorce filed March 27, 2019, and finalized May 17, 2019, five days after my 18th anniversary.
In that time, I saw no changes. That doesnt mean you wont, but even my timeframe is considered short.
Just keep DBing. Back off, leave her alone. Live your own life away from her. Make changes to better yourself. Do things that make you happy. Stop worrying about what she is doing, what she thinks. Stop making decisions based on how she will react.
Stop cooking her breakfast. Stop doing everything. She needs to feel that you are backing away from her and that you are not a backup plan or plan b. She needs to see that you are going to be ok alone and that you are ok with being alone and that you will be a man only a fool would leave. Did you buy the DR book? If not, do it. Read it. Then read it again.
Last edited by SoTorn; 07/05/1911:11 PM.
M:16 T:21 H(me) 38 WW: 38 S11 D16 D19 Red Flags of A: March 2018 ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018 Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018 BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018 D Filed: March 27, 2019
