So so new to this :(

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Nyla,

Hi

It makes sense that you might feel more unsure after the conversation with H
What idid this or that mean?
many of them will give crossed messages

I believe they are unsure and will go back and forth in their minds with Are they doing the right thing-

They also may want to keep us as a back up plan-

But I also believe if it is MLC they get pulled in that direction of destructive behavior, addictions chaos, OW
because to come back to the R would mean self reflection, inner child work,pain, work therapy ect... and many a MLCer will never go in that direction-

So My thinking here is until he comes to you with a solid agreement that he wants to get help and make the M work-
I would continue as you are..letting go- being there for the kids- let him sit with his not knowing-


You pain and anger is valid and it is needed and part of the healing process-for you
talk to a therapist so you can get the support needed here for you to grieve