Focusing on me (The Mikey B story Part 3)

[mikeyb]

So I fired off what I wrote before slightly modified:

W,

I have not heard back from you and I have been patient and reasonable. Because I have not heard back I have now spoken with an attorney to better understand my rights through all of this. If you choose to continue along this route below is what I was advised that I can and will pursue.

1) Half the marital portion of your 401K - my marital 401K balance (Balance unknown)
2) Half of your stock balance that is all marital ($5,810 / 2 = $2,905)
3) Half of the cell phone bill ($1600.84 / 2 = $800.42)
4) Half the remaining balance of Wedding loan in which we have already agreed upon ($938.19 / 2 = $469.09)
5) Bridge the gap support for expenses incurred (Unknown at this time)

I am still willing to work with you and avoid this route, and to do so here is my new proposal:

1) Half of your stock balance that is all marital ($5,810 / 2 = $2,905)
2) Half of the cell phone bill ($1600.84 / 2 = $800.42)
3) Half the remaining balance of Wedding loan in which we have already agreed upon ($938.19 / 2 = $469.09)
4) And return of my belongings

Please respond with how you would like to proceed.

H

and this is the response that I got from her:

Mom said she was trying to call you to set up a meeting to give you back your stuff and to sign the papers. But you never answered. So when do you want to meet up so i can give you back your stuff? And do you want to go to the bank a sign the paper work still or no? You said you weren't after my money but i knew that was a lie. The phone bill should not be 50% because i should not be paying for your phone, my phone, and your mom's phone. I would like to see how much my phone is? And were is my phone that i paying for? If i am paying for the phone i want it back. And you took money out of my 401k that i am still paying back. But when do want your stuff back and where do you want to meet up?

I'm not entirely sure how to interpret that response, to clarify a few things:
1) Her mom did reach out, but this was after the fact of the cell phone bill and my first email to the W about it and which she responded that she didn't agree and would continue without. So no response was needed as I was not signing the papers and she knew this.

2) The 401K stuff she is referring to is a loan against her 401K that WE took out about 1 1/2 years ago to help with some expenses.

3) Initially I wasn't after her money and that can be noted through all the previous posts that I have shared. I have tried to give her reasonable ways out and she is refusing them all so I am pushing harder every time. And now it has come to the point of financials being involved.

So the way that I am interpreting her response is that she now sees the pressure I am willing to put against her and she is now wanting to take my previous offer of paying the phone bill and returning my stuff, an offer that she had refused and is no longer on the table.

So I'm not exactly sure how to respond to that, more so the fact that she didn't even answer to what I was asking...