thanks everyone So yesterday I took ds1 to lunch, he was remarkably chatty for a change! It was really nice. He told me about his friend who is going to go to the nearest uni instead of leaving home 'because his mum does everything for him and he can't even heat up a pizza'. I laughed and said that my benign neglect parenting techniques have at least made my kids independent! I do a lot for my kids, but if they want dinner after I've gone to bed then they know where the fridge and oven are and how to prepare themselves dinner. Walking back from the restaurant I asked him where he wanted to go on holiday and instead of his usual shoulder shrugging he said he wanted to go somewhere new, somewhere not too hot and preferably a city, not a beach or camping. Hooray! So we floated some options around and I'll run them past ds2 when I get a chance. This will suit all of us
In the evening ds2 had some school performances. Even though I had to sit there for HOURS in a boiling hot hall on a very uncomfortable chair for the sake of seeing ds2 perform for about 5 minutes, it was worth the sacrifice. I felt sad looking round and seeing all the dads there, but then I remembered that H has NEVER come to these things. His work always came first. I have actually always been a single mum except when we were on holidays, H has not been capable of being part of our family. That's his loss, and it's a great one. But I am enough for both my boys. I am so proud of both of them, they are astonishing human beings. Afterwards ds2 and I did a post mortem of the performance and those of his friends (he's reached the age where his social circle is expanding and it's lovely to see) and then we went through his school report. More proud moments, my boys are hard working, determined and focused.
Talking of which, I better get off here and do some work myself!
