Can I play devils advocate here and say you’re being a hypocrite and are being selfish. If she stayed married to you then she would only be doing because that is what you want.
Would that make you happy? If she said you know what wolf your right I’m being selfish. I will sacrifice my happiness in the one life I have to make you happy. Even though I have zero feelings for you that a w should have for her husband and probably never will let’s stay together.
Why are you so afraid to let her go and find her happiness? She doesn’t even sound like a very nice person. There is a high probability you will find someone even better.
You will get through this it just takes some time.
