MC went well, in my view. We're scaling back to once every other week, which I think is fine. I don't want us to lose all touch - although I have hard set a rule with myself to go no contact initiated by me in between sessions - and I think MC will be a good channel for listening and validating.
Otherwise, GAL continues unabated. Down to 16% body fat and looking really fit at the gym. Played tennis this week, and joined a flag football and softball team at work. Meeting new people, getting my butt out of the house. One of the things that WAW loved about me was my athleticism - and she's right that I got a bit lazy and complacent. Not doing it for her as I do miss it, but a nice opportunity to potentially kill two birds with one stone.
Discussing the SA is punted until next week, which is fine, although I do expect there to be some tough discussions when it does come around. Still planning on holding my ground, communicating that I'm not casting her as the enemy and I do not wish to be punitive to her, but that I need to make sure I'm doing the right thing for me.
One interesting thing though: she's heavily involved in local politics - a massive turning point in our M, as it caused her to have a lot less time to spend at home and between us - and she's signed up to be the campaign manager for a friend of hers that is running for a state seat. Anyway, she's not the technical type and I am, and she's having lots of trouble getting her campaign website up and running. On one hand, I absolutely don't want to be the dude who is at her beck and call when she needs help. On the other hand, one of her complaints from the M is that I wasn't very helpful to her on group projects, and that she didn't feel like I was available when she needed me.
So my question: is it possible to thread the needle here, show a 180 and help when I can (ie: not cancel plans or go out of my way), but also set boundaries (ie: come to my neighborhood, I have to leave at time x, etc.)? She's attracted to the skilled and nerdy types, of which I absolutely am, and this might be a nice way to remind her that we do work well as a team. Or am I being naive and losing respect in her eyes?
