You're doing so well, Hope. That loneliness is hard - I feel it too - but the reality for lots of us is that we were very lonely in our marriages too, for a long time, and going backwards isn't going to make us feel any better. It seems that having that innocent connection with someone else has helped you see yourself through someone else's eyes - as a young and vibrant woman with plenty to offer to the right person, when the right time comes. I'm not there myself yet, but I am certainly seeing my H through healthier and clearer eyes, and that's been an incredible amount of help in getting me to detach and move on. I don't particularly want to find someone new either!