Persistent Endurance (Part 4)

[curtis7]

That is the best post I have read on these forums. You sound like you have done your homework. You understand many of your best options. You may understand the pro's and con's of each.

When you decide what you want to do, make your choice and live with the consequences of that choice. Just understand that timing is important for any of the choices. Some of them might be too late, others too early. Only you can truly determine this.

Thanks R2C!! I take a lot of pride in your acknowledgment.

Let’s call that post part 1, part 2 will include scripts for the possible confrontation that gives her the choice.

I don’t post too often, but I’ve been visiting the forums almost daily for over 6 months. A great deal of my time was spent reading archives and stumbling upon other members with similar sitches. This had a cascading effect of linking to more members either by chance, signature line details, or curiosity based on their posts in other LBS threads. I have various script excerpts that I’m sifting through and tailoring for my sitch. I should have been more diligent when reading through each members story. My notes are a bit scattered at the moment. I would have liked to better document which were successful and the timing of taking action.

I am very analytical in nature and gather a lot of relevant data and information on the subject matter so that I can make informed decisions when trying to solve problems. I must admit that the DB principles were new to me and not so logical as I didn’t comprehend the mindset of a WW. Moreover, I really had never invested much time or energy to study what is required for a healthy and fulfilling relationship or marriage. From my perspective, that part of my life just came naturally and didn’t seem to be approaching a crisis. I was blindsided by BD which shows my naivety and disconnect with my W’s feelings. So, yes, I have spent an inordinate amount of time here in the background, but I think that speaks to the value and importance I place on my W, MR, and family.

Excellent advice to take time to consider these options and stand by my decision. Navigating to find the right time is key. I may step back for a while to focus on GAL and more patience, time, and space.

If you choose 1 or 2 please put a jock strap on first.

I was thinking a cup actually. Flame retardant.

LH and AS, yeah jock strap doesn’t offer enough protection, need to add the cup.