Curtis, I've been to Retrou and one requirement they have is that both of you have to be willing to work on the M and there cannot be an OP in the picture. They will call each of you in advance and specifically ask you A) are you at least willing to consider reconciling, and B) can you assure us there is no 3rd party- boyfriend/ girlfriend/ romantic interest. If the answer to either (not both) of those is no, then you will not be allowed in. I would say there's no way your W is replying yes to both of those so that option is a no-go.
Option 2, with where she is right now, even if she agrees to go it will be to justify her actions. She won't go with the intent of working on the M and they won't be able to make her.
Option 3, if anyone could talk sense into her it would be Sandi, but unfortunately there is no talking sense into her right now.
Option 4 YES
Option 5 I absolutely support this, but you have GOT to be willing to enforce your boundaries even if that means filing for D. If you state boundaries and she poops on them and you do nothing then you're in a far worse position than if you had just remained silent. MAKE SURE you are ready to proceed with your ramifications before doing this.
Option 6 I would say it's way too soon for that.
Option 7 yes absolutely, should be a part of 5.
Options 8 and 9 you already know what I'm going to say since you posted my quote, I'm impressed you had that at your fingertips by the way
Originally Posted by LH19
If you choose 1 or 2 please put a jock strap on first.
