I read the NGS, but I don’t think that’s really about me. I do some of those things, but not most of them. Listen and validate. Listen and validate.
Most who read it will not identify with the majority of it. For me it was maybe 1/3. But that 1/3 really hit home and is constantly on my mind.
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Can I even start the conversation with her to ask her how her day was? If I don’t, I don’t think we will even talk.
Respect her need for time and space. If she doesn't start a convo then guess what, it's because she doesn't want to talk to you. Has there ever been someone in your life that just really grated on your nerves? Someone that was always trying to start a conversation and you really just wanted to slap them into next week? Yeah that's how she sees you right now.
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You were right. She wanted him and I told her I thought we could all hang out together, but she refused.
Why would she do that?
Because she doesn't want to be around you. I'm sorry if some of these things hurt, but they are your reality right now and the sooner you understand then the sooner you can go about detaching.
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This is just my feelings and I’m not judging anyone at all. I am a family man. I always have been and always hope to be. I took my vows seriously and I’m proud of my little family, even my wife. I’ll do anything to get them back, not from a place of codependency, but from a place of strength and pride.
So you love her that much huh? Let me ask you something, if you love someone that finds you repulsive, doesn't want to be around you, doesn't want to talk to you and generally just hates your presence then what would be the ULTIMATE SHOW OF LOVE????? What would it be? Would it be to constantly get in their face, temp check, invite them to stuff, start convos, etc.? Or would it be to LET THEM GO? Please understand that you are actively pushing YOUR agenda, not HERS. That is NOT love. You want to love her? Then respect her desire to have time and space from you.
